The TV remote - the start of a good thing

As mentioned in my previous blog, I am hopeful that I will be able to awaken my wife's dominant side due to some success in giving up control of the TV remote.

Rewind 5 years:
We have been married for 5 years and for much of the first 4 years, we fought over the TV remote. We only have one TV and are adament about not getting another one as we want to make sure we spend nights together. Like all good Canadians, I am an avid hockey fan (Montreal Canadiens; and no, there is no spelling mistake!). My wife is a big reality TV fan. Thursday nights were particularly problematic as this was a big TV night for my wife and for me.

Giving up control:
7 months ago, I decided to take a big step. My wife would ask what I wanted to watch and I would answer "You are the boss of the TV in this house". At first, my wife would say something like "No, I want to watch what you want..." or something along those lines. However, after a few weeks of telling her that she was in charge of the TV, my wife started taking to this. I guess she started liking the fact that she could watch what she wanted, when she wanted. She no longer asks what I want to watch and just assumes that she is in charge of the TV, no questions asked.

Every once in a while, I will test her and say "Can I watch hockey tonight" and she will reply by saying "I am the boss of the TV". One night, while watching her shows, she changed to hockey during her commercials so I could see the score (only twice in 3 hours!) and then said "You see how nice I am, I even let you watch what you want during commercials".

So my otherwise "vanilla" wife has no problem whatsoever taking complete control of the TV regardless of my desires. I don't even get to watch what I want when she is not home as she tapes her shows and she makes a point of highlighting this.

My hope, and maybe I am dreaming, is that I will be able to get the same type of reaction with regard to housecleaning. I am convinced that one day my wife will take it for granted that the housecleaning is my duty much like she takes being head of the TV for granted today.

New beginnings

Despite all the negative press regarding "stealth submission", I am dedicated to living a life of "stealth" service to my vanilla wife. My goals are two-fold. Firstly, I aim to serve her as best I can (as difficult as this may be in a "real" setting that involves the pressures of every day life and the challenges of raising a young child). Secondly, I hope to awaken her dominant side.

My objective for this blog is to share my successes and failures in this lifestyle. I am a little over a month into my stealth submission and will provide details explaining some of the things that I have been able to keep up.

Here's a bit more information regarding the 2 goals mentioned above:

1) My aim to serve my wife as best I can:
3 guiding principles have helped me keep this going for the month.
i) My purpose in life is to serve my wife (she is my raison d'être).
ii) My wife is always right: This does not mean that I do not provide my input. I do. However, I do not argue with my wife, I do not raise my tone, and ultimately concede to her on all decisions.
iii) I will always obey my wife.

Repeating these guiding principles in my head throughout the day has helped keep me focused on my service.

2) My hope to awaken her dominant side:
Patience is key here. Especially in my case. My wife is as vanilla as they come. However, I am convinced that by taking baby steps, we will be able to make progress.

I am convinced of this for two reasons. Firstly, I have realistic expectations (I know that my wife will never have me kiss her feet on command!). At best, I think she will take it for granted that I am to do all the housecleaning and laundry. Secondly, we have already made significant progress in one area of our lives: the TV remote control (more details to follow).